“The time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.”

I just returned from a tropical vacation in beautiful San Jose Los Cabos, & was thinking of how single parenting is a bit like being a cast away, but without Tom Hanks – or even Wilson – around for intelligent, adult conversation. After years of being in a partnership, it can feel a little like being […]

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You have to laugh a little, cry a little

Most people are familiar with Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ Five Stages of Grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance (or DABDA, which is kind of snappy for such a sad concept). The model is most commonly used to describe the stages we go through when confronted with illness, death or the death of a loved one, but […]

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It’s two years of shit, then it just…gets better

Although I enjoy a good relationship with my ex today and am living proof that divorce does not equal death, the past three years weren’t exactly brined chicken & roses. In the beginning, there was so much hurt, regret, bitterness, anger and what felt like pure hatred. There were big fat lies and there were […]

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So, what is a Divorce Doula anyway?

My ex & I hired a doula to coach us through our first pregnancy and delivery. She had a hippydippy smile, tons of experience in coaching women through their pregnancies and always smelled like ginger snaps. All things a panicked expectant mother craves. Especially the ginger snaps. My ex was also a great support to […]

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The world’s best ex-husband

I am blessed. Truly, I have the world’s best ex-husband. I’m not bragging, I’m just so grateful.  But to be honest, I am a pretty kick-ass ex-wife. It’s not always easy to spend non-court mediated time with your former spouse, but my ex & I do it willingly every week during what we call Family […]

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